Iko kune dzakawanda nhamba, zvidzidzo, uye nezvechokwadi pamusoro pekugara pamwe nemadzimai. Vakawanda vanowanzofunga kuti avo vanogara vari pangozi yakakura yokurambana. Kusarudza kana kurarama pamwe chete musati waroora kana kurarama pamwe chete ne "mararamiro-kuedza" kuroorana isarudzo yakasarudzwa. Kutarisa zvinobudirira nekunetseka kunobatsira kuitira kuti iwe ugone kuita sarudzo yakanyatsozivikanwa kwauri.
Sangano reNational Institute of Child Health and Human Development:
"Kubatana kwevanhu, iyo kamwe isingadikanwi, ikozvino ndiyo tsika: Vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti inopfuura hafu (54 kubva muzana) yemhuri dzose dzekutanga pakati pe1990 na1994 yakatanga nehukama husina kuroora.Vanofungidzira kuti vazhinji vevarume nevakadzi vemazera ekuroorana nhasi shandisa nguva muukama hwekugara.
"... Kubatana hukama huri hwakasimba kudarika mhuri uye kuti kusagadzikana kuri kuwedzera"
Chokwadi
- Kurarama pamwe chete kunofungidzirwa kuva kunonetsa kudarika kuroora.
- Vanongodarika makumi mashanu kubva kuzana kubva muzana kubva kuvadzidzi vanogara pamwe chete vakaroorana.
- MuUnited States uye muUnited States, vakaroorana vanogara pamwe chete vari pangozi yakakura yokurambana pane vasiri kubatana nemudzimai.
- Vakaroorana vakagara pamwe chete vasati varoora vanotora kurambana pakutanga kwekuroorana kwavo. Kana imba yavo ichingova nemakore manomwe, ipapo mungozi yavo yekurambana yakangofanana nemadzimai avo vasina kubatana vasati varoorana.
- Vakaroorana vakagadzikana vaive nekuparadzanisa kanomwe katatu kwevakaroorana uye kuyananisa kwaive chikamu chechitatu chevakaroorana.
- Vakaroorana vanogara pamwe vanowanzova vasina kuvimbika.
- Kuenzaniswa nevaya vari kuronga kuroora , avo vanogara vanove neukama hwakanaka hwehukama hwehurombo. Vanowanzova nehondo yakawanda uye chisimba uye zvishoma zvichitaura mufaro.
- Vakaroorana vanogara pamwe vanowana mari shoma uye vashoma pfuma kupfuura vevakaroorana vavo vakaroorana gare gare muupenyu.
- Kuenzaniswa nevanhu vakaroora, avo vanogara vanove nepamusoro-kati yekuora mwoyo nekushandisa zvinodhaka.
Chokwadi Chaunonzwa Kazhinji
- MuFrance neGermany vakaroorana vanogara vari pangozi shoma yekurambana.
- Kana kubatana kwakagadzikana kumurume wemunguva yemumwe munhu uye pane zvirongwa zvekuroora, hakuna dambudziko rakakwirira rekurambana.
- MuUnited States, vakaroorana vanogara pamwe chete vachitora dzidzo dzedzidzo dzisina kuroorana kana kupa mazano hazvisi pangozi yakakura yokurambana.
Chisarudzo chekugara nemumwe wako chinokosha chinoenderana nemwi mose semurume nemudzimai. Icho hachisi pfungwa yakanaka kusafuratira maitiro akawanda uye matambudziko ane pfungwa yekutanga. Iwe zvechokwadi unofanirwa kufungisisa nezvekuda kwako kurarama pamwechete. Izvo hazvisi nyore here? Ndizvo here kupedza nguva yakawanda pamwe chete? Iwe hauna chokwadi nezvehukama uye unoda kuita sarudzo yakanyatsoziva? Kana, inongova kutanga kwekuroora here? Ramba uchifunga kuti vakaroorana vanogara pamwe vanoita sevari kubudirira kwazvo kana vakatoita chiito chakajeka kune mumwe nemumwe.
Inertia Effect
Itai kuti vakaroorana vazive nezve "inertia effect." Iko kunowanzova kwakaoma zvikuru kuputsa nekuda kwekutsvaga kwako kukuru muhukama munguva.
Chii chinoitika ndechokuti vaviri vakaroorana avo vangadai vasati varoora kana kuti vakaroorana vanoita zvishoma nezvishoma muwanano. Avo vanogara pamwe chete nechinangwa chekuroorana havari pangozi, avo chete vasina mirairo yakajeka pamusoro pekuzvipira.
Sliding vs. Kusarudza Kuwanana
Vamwe vakaroorana "vanoridza" zvishoma nehana nekuda kwekukurukurirana kwehukama, asi vamwe vanofunga zvakanyanya uye nechisarudzo zvisarudzo pamusoro pekufamba navo. Vakaroorana vanoita izvi vanozoita nani munguva refu. Chisarudzo chisingaiti chekuita muwanano, sekunge mushure mekugara pamwe chete, ndeyekuti mumwe kana vashandi vaviri vanozviwana vachibvuma kusunga pfumo nokuti kuroora kunoratidzika sechinhu chinotevera "chinonzwisisika". Iyi inowanzova nzira isina kuchenjera yekuita izvo zvinofanirwa kuve kuzvipira kwoupenyu hwose sekuroorana.
Mukupedzisa, kubatana kunogona kunge kwakarurama kune vamwe vanhu vari pasi pemamiriro akanaka. Murume nemudzimai vanofanira kutarisa chokwadi (uye nhema), vagova peji imwechete sekuti nei vachida kugadzirisa uye izvo zvavanotarisira ndezvipi pakuita saizvozvo. Nenguva isipi tine tsvakurudzo yakasimba uye ruzivo kuti tibatsire vakaroorana kuita sarudzo yakanakisisa ivo pachavo uye ramangwana ravo.
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