Nzira dzeNhasi yeSweda Belle

Iwe unoti "Maam" uye "Ishe" pasina kufunga here? Unomwa tea yako inonaka kubva mumasipi emasonti here? Iwe unoziva nguva yekushandisa izwi rokuti "kuropafadza mwoyo wako"? Iwe unokoshesa kukosha kwehanzvadzi yehupenzi iyo inomira parutivi rwako kuburikidza nehutete kana hutete? Kana iwe uchiti hongu kune imwe yemibvunzo iyi, unogona kunge uri kumaodzanyemba belle pamwoyo, kunyange iwe usingararami muSouth.

Nhoroondo, mabhesi ekumaodzanyemba akararama nekodhi yekodzero nemitemo yakapfuudzwa kubva mumamashi avo uye vanambuya.

Zvimwe zvinhu zvakasikwa zvakadai sekuti, "Gara uchidana mukadzi 'ma'am' uye gentleman 'sir.'" Vamwe vari munzvimbo yepamunharaunda kana zvakananga kune dzimwe mhuri.

Chinhu chakakosha muzvinyorwa zvisina kunyora belle etiquette rulebook ndeyekuti uratidze nguva yako yakanyanya uye usambo (kana nhai) ureve kuti wakasimba zvakadini. Kunyange zvazvo akarerekera mumitambo, belle remazuva ano anoziva nezvemaitiro evanhu uye anogamuchira zvimwe zvinhu zvisingatongopindi maonero ake ekumaodzanyemba.

Kuve munhu ane njere yekumaodzanyemba belle hazvina chokuita nehuwandu hwemari yako baba vako kana kuti iwe wakadzidziswa sei. Kutaura zvazviri, kuratidzira mari kana kutongesa njere dzako pamusoro pomumwe munhu asingajekeswi kunonzi kunonzi tacky (kumucheto kutaura pamusoro pezvakaipa).

Azvino kumaodzanyemba belle ingangodaro yekubatana neuto sezvo iye achizova nhengo yeJunior League. Nzvimbo yekumaodzanyemba inogona kunge yakafamba-famba munyika yose, asi haitombotauri nemidzi yake nokuti tsika dzake dzekumaodzanyemba dzinomhanya zvakadzama.

Kudya

Pasinei nokuti akabhabhatidzwa mubasa rake kana kuti kugara-pamusha amai, iye achiri kufunga nzvimbo yakanaka yakakosha zvikuru. A southern belle anoda china chakanaka, uye kana yakatambidzwa kuburikidza nezvizvarwa, zviri nani zviri nani.

Vasikana vaduku vakawanda muZouth vanoziva kare kuti chii chavanoshandisa mari yesirivha-vasati vambova nekamwe yevaya kana kana vakaroorana.

Kana musikana akasarudza kusaroorwa (uye nguva dzose iri kusarudzwa nechekumaodzanyemba), achashumira zvokudya nekuzvikudza uye achawana nzira yekukurukurirana mutsara wekugadzirisa nzvimbo pamwe nevashanyi vake pasina kuonekwa kuzvikudza.

Southern belles ine tsika dzefurafura . Vanoziva kuisa tafura yekudya kuti ive chikafu chekudya, uye vanoziva kuti zvii zvinoshandiswa kushandiswa pakudzidza imwe neimwe. Apo mumwe munhu akanganisa kana kuparadza chimwe chinhu , vanoziva kuvhara munhu wacho kudzivisa humwe kunyadziswa.

Kufarira uye Kuve Nekunakidzwa

Apo sasi yekumaodzanyemba yakakokwa kumabiko, muchato, kana chimwe chiitiko, anonyatsotumira zvakare RSVP . Rimwe rekumaodzanyemba rinouya richibereka zvipo zvemukadzi-dzimwe nguva kusvika pakunyadzisa mukadzi murombo nokuti hapana chinhu chakadai chakawandisa kana chakaipisisa munyika yake. Akange asingamboperi chikamu, asi kana muenzi asingagamuchirwe achimuitira kuti aunganidzwe, achaita chero chinotora kuti munhu wacho anzwe akagamuchirwa.

Kana achangosvika pamba achibva kumutambo kana kugara kweusiku, imwe yenharaunda yekumaodzanyemba belle inyorera mavheti okutendai uye oiwana mumeyo pakarepo. Kana iye akaisvonaka akarongeka, angave ane peni uye mapepa mumotokari uye anoitumira iyo munzira kuenda kumba kubva pane zvaanoita.

Kuti usatumira mumwe wekutendai chinyorwa isinganyengeri, uye belle riri kumaodzanyemba richaita chero chinhu chipi zvacho kudzivirira kunzi rude.

Azvino kumaodzanyemba belle anoziva nzira yake yepamusoro pekicheni pamwe nemadzitateguru ake akaita. Kana achikwanisa kubika, anozviita achikura. Kana zvisina kudaro, anoziva kugadzirisa zvokudya zvakagadzirirwa pane zvakanakisa china platters uye kuita kuti zviite sokuti iye norudo akagadzira chimwe chinhu kubva pakutanga. Uye nechekumaodzanyemba anoziva kuita tiyi inotapira, iyo inofanirwa kunwa yeSouth.

Kugadzirisa uye Kuonekwa

Rimwe rekumaodzanyemba rinogara rakagadzirirwa zvakanaka , asi harina kumbotira zvipikiri kana kudonhedura vhudzi muvanhu. Anogona kunge akapfeka jeans, asi haakanganwi kuveura misoro yake. Iwe hauzombozivi nguva yaunofanira kuratidza imwe gumbo. Mazino ayo anogara achichenesa kuitira kuti aone kutapira kwemaodzanyemba kwakanaka. Chinhu chose pamusoro pokuti sei kumaodzanyemba belle chinotarisa chinangwa, kusanganisira mhepo ine mhepo ine mvere iyo inogona kutora maawa kuti ibudirire.

Ndiye mukadzi anozvitakura achizvikudza. Iwe uchaona achibatisisa musoro wake kumusoro apo iye agere zvakananga. Paanenge achifamba, ane chidimbu chakanaka chinenge chave chichiitwa kwemaawa pamberi pegirazi.

Southern Belle Rules

Ikoko kune mabhuku ekumaodzanyemba belle, asi vasikana vanokura kuSouth havafaniri kuiverenga. Vanoziva zvinotarisirwa kubva kwavari kubva pavanotanga kutaura. Apo vanosvika kune imwe nguva, vanowanikwa pa cotillion, vachibuda bhora, kana bhengi remashure kuti nyika izive kuti mhuri yavo inozviona yakagadzirira kutarisana nenyika.

Rimwe belle riri kumaodzanyemba rinorarama nemimwe mitemo isingafaniri kuputswa, kana kuti inogara ichinyadzisa yemhuri:

• Zvishongo zvitsvuku hazvifaniri kumbopfeka pamberi pePaster kana mushure meSvondo reBasa, kunze kwekunge iwe uri kumuchato wako pachako. Zvadaro zvakanaka, asi paunosuka kunze kwejasi rako, iwe unoda kushandura shangu dzako, kana iwe uchaonekwa se tacky . Zvisinei, zvakakodzera kupfeka "chando chechando" pakati pebasa reSabata neIsita.
• Pasinei nokuti anofamba mangani anoenda kuatari, imwe yekumusoro yemukwati inopfeka yakachena.
• Cleavage yakachengeterwa manheru. Zuva risati ravira, chivhara chifuva chako.
• Kucheka gum munzvimbo inowanikwa vanhu ... zvakanaka, inongova tacky .
• Mazuva ano mabhande ekumaodzanyemba anogona kusvuta uye kunwa, asi havafaniri kutenderera nemukati kana kunwa mumaoko avo. Zvichida mumwe munhu akauyisa kwauri kana kuti akauisa pachigaro chako.
• Usambopika pachena . Kana chimwe chinhu chichikudzingai, sarudza uphemism, yakadai se "darn," "kupfura," kana kuti "Ndinoda."
• Ida mhuri yako, kunyange eccentric folks ... kunyanya eccentric vanhu. Vanokupa chimwe chinhu chakutarisa pamhuri yekuonanazve uye chimwe chinhu chokutaura pamusoro pekupedzisira.
• Mukadzi akakuberekera nguva dzose ndiye "Amai," kunze kwekuti akasarudza zvakanyanyisa "Amai," uye munhu wokutanga muupenyu hwako achagara achinzi "Baba."
• Southern belles uyo anopinda koreji anoziva kuti svondo rinosvitsa vhiki nderei, uye vane nzvimbo inokosha mumadzimai avo, vanambuya, kana kuti seni vekutuka kweimba. Kuva nhaka kunopa huti hwekuchengetedza, kuchengetedza chikwata pamagumo evhiki ... kunze kwekuti iye apfuura mugumo wakadzika uye mhepo inopera kuva yakawanda kune "hanzvadzi" kugadzirisa.

• Ziva nzira yekuwana nayo zvinyorwa pasina kuva tacky . Kana usina mubvunzo, bvisa chimwe chinhu asati abva mumba. MuSouth, iyi inonzi "hutsika huri pasi."
• Usamboita makuhwa . Paunenge uine chimwe chinhu chekutaura icho chisina kunaka, taura nezvazvo, "Ropafadza mwoyo wake" kana "Ndapota nyengetererai," uye iwe unogona kutora zvishoma nezvimwe.
• Kana iwe usingazivi zita romumwe munhu, unogona kushandisa mazwi emudiwa akaita se "sweetie," "uchi," "shuga," kana "darlin". "
• Kana mumwe munhu ari kurwara kana achipfuura, uya nezvokudya kumhuri. Vanhu vanonzwa nzara pavanotarisira musina simba uye mushure mokunge varasikirwa nemunhu wavanoda, asi havana nguva yekubika. Vazhinji vemaodzanyemba mabonde vane casserole yavanofarira iyo vamwe vanozopedzisira vatarisira. Kana vasingagamuchiri, vanonetseka kuti iwe unorwara, uye iwe unogona kuwana vanhu vachizviratidza pamusuo wenyu nechingwa.
• Rimwe rekumaodzanyemba rakasununguka rinotonga nguva dzose, uye rinodaro rakanaka. Zvisinei, sezvaanenge achifamba pamwe nehondo yezvishongo zvishongo uye shangu chena musvondo musati waKutenderera, unogona kuvimba naye kutarisa pamapfudzi ake kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti amai vake vari kutarisa.